Our Family Program

Help for Families is Found Here

Addiction is a family disease, and experience shows us that it is essential that families actively participate in the recovery process along with their addicted loved one. At GraceWay, we provide long-term recovery support services for our residents, while simultaneously providing education, support, and assistance to their families to aid in their own recovery.

The most common myth about addiction is that it only affects the addicted individual. The National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence describes addiction as “a family disease that stresses the family to the breaking point, impacts the stability of the home, the family’s unity, mental health, physical healthy, finances, and overall family dynamics.” The entire family system is affected by addiction, which is why the entire family must take an active role in the recovery process. At GraceWay, we view recovery as a two-fold process; individual recovery and family recovery.

"My dad would threaten to kick me out of the house but never followed through with it. I learned that I could continue to use and not face any serious consequences."

GraceWay Alumna

"I helped hide my wife's drinking from our family and friends. I learned that I was my wife's secret keeper and that I only enabled my wife's alcoholism to continue progressing."

GraceWay Family Member

"My parents set me up with a house each time I completed a treatment program, 6 to be exact. I relapsed shortly after and my parents would come and pack up my belongings and put me in a new treatment center each time. What this taught me was that I will be rewarded each time I relapse. Instead of becoming a self-sufficient adult who is responsible I could continue to live off of my parents dime and avoid all responsibility."

GraceWay Alumna

"My mom paid for all of my living expenses while I was in active addiction. This taught me that my addiction and lifestyle was acceptable to her and I could manipulate her to get what I wanted."

GraceWay Alumna

The Family Disease

One of, if not the most, painful aspect of addiction is that families must bear witness as their addicted loved one’s life fall apart as the disease progresses. This manifests as the loss of jobs, deteriorating relationships, financial struggles, arrests, and declining physical, mental, social, and spiritual health. This unmanageablity bleeds into the family system, and affects all lives touched by the addiction.

Addiction consumes the addict, and in turn, their loved ones become consumed with their own unhealthy behaviors which revolve around the addict. This unhealthy enmeshment becomes a pattern the families get trapped in, and manifests in numerous ways, such as, obsession with the addict, enabling (care taking), limited or non-existent healthy boundaries, control, guilt, poor self-care, and wishful thinking.

Families do their absolute best to help their loved one and if love alone could beat this disease then families would not need the help of professionals. Unfortunately, this disease uses a families love against them in the most insidious of ways. That is why is is vital that families take an active role in the recovery process to educate themselves, gain support, and unlearn unhealthy behavior patterns. We have learned from 19 years of helping families that those who take an active role in their own recovery, positively impacts their loved one in our program.

We waste no time to get families started and they begin to take an active role in the recovery process during intake. Families are given a family packet and family workbook to take back home with them with clear instructions on how to begin their own recovery. We understand that families carry around their own pain and equal amounts of struggle, and we also understand that if a family is to grow and survive, it is critical that family members do their own recovery work as well.

Family Services Offered:

Individual Support

Before we have any contact with family members and proceed with family services, the resident in our care must first give us permission to contact them by signing a release of information. From that point, our family counselor will meet with the family to assess their needs for ongoing support. Within the first 2 weeks, families are encouraged to complete the family questionnaire, begin working in the family workbook, and start attending Al-Anon meetings in their area.

Family Support Sessions

Within the first 30 days, and after we have received the completed family packet, our counselor will call to schedule the first zoom or in person session. These sessions are to provide support, counseling, and education to family members.

Family Workshop

Our intensive two-day family workshops are offered every 8 weeks and loved ones are encouraged to attend. When the time is deemed appropriate, approved family members will be sent an invitation to the workshop. In preparation for this day, families are required to have attended at least 6 Al-Anon meetings and are actively working with our family counselor.

 

More Information for Families

Personal Accounts (Click Here)

We do our best to encompass an all-inclusive monthly program fee, however, there are some items that your loved one may need to purchase. Examples include nicotine items, contact solution, medication refills (if they are already on a medication upon intake; we do not prescribe medications at our facility), are some common examples. We recommend $200/month. These funds will be kept in a locked account that only our staff has access to so that we can purchase items needed for your loved one.

Phone Calls, Mail, and Packages (Click Here)

Residents do no have phone privilege until after the initial 30 day period. Your loved one will fill out a phone call contract that must first be approved by their community and their counselor. She will also be able to send and receive mail from approved individuals after the initial 30 day period. This is a standard practice at quality treatment facilities and is upheld for a number of reasons. Please be patient; your loved one will write or call when she can.

GraceWay has specific guidelines that must be followed with respect to what packages residents may receive from family. It is not our wish to deprive your loved one of anything, however, part of the therapeutic process is learning how to find gratitude for what they have. Your loved one will be provided with everything that she needs while in our care. She will learn how to live within the guidelines set, while we keep her best interests at the forefront. Before sending any packages to your loved one please call and speak with one of our counselors beforehand for approval.

Therapeutic Leave Requests (Click Here)

Residents are not eligible for a therapeutic leave (TL) during the first 90 days. They become eligible for a TL if they choose to transition into The Way Sober Living apartments. Residents will first submit a TL request to their counselor for community and staff approval. Family members are required to have actively participated in the recovery process to be approved for a TL. We advise families against making any concrete plans until the TL request has been approved and families have been notified by staff of this approval. If a TL request is denied it does not necessarily mean that the resident is not making progress. TL requests can be denied for numerous reasons, including family instability or an insufficient plan. Our family counselor is available to discuss an upcoming TL as well as to debrief after a TL.

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